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How To Write A Resolution For A Funeral

Saturday, June 6th, 2009

How to Write a Resolution For a Funeral
By Janet Hudspeth

How to write a resolution for a funeral? Boy was that ever the question I needed the answer to the first time I was asks to write for a funeral.

I remember it was for the service of a family member and I was unsure exactly how to go about it, but through some quick research and talking with the family I made it through it. I receiving many thanks and have been asks a number of times through the years for my assistance in this area.

How to write a resolution for a funeral, and how to write a funeral program have become much sought after skills in recent years, partly because people are not satisfied with the old traditionally somber and sad offerings of years past. And, partly because most people know that they can find the “how-to-do” most anything on-line saving themselves time, money and stress.

Resolutions of the past were bare, bleak, brief and mostly produced by churches and funeral homes. Today families look for someone who knows how to write a funeral resolution that is a joyful affirmation, full of heartfelt words of comfort that will leave a glow in their hearts and more smiles than tears.

The “funeral resolution” or “expression of condolence” speech as they are sometimes called, seem to be terms that are used frequently interchangeably, although, they are two very different instruments or ways of commemorating a loved one during a funeral service.

Since this is so, I strongly recommend that when you are writing funeral resolutions or condolence speeches,that you seek clarification from the person making the request to make sure you are both on the same page or speaking of the same thing.

Tip: Let them refer to it as they will just make sure you understand what they want.

Tip: Here are some quick step-saving references excerpted from the Merriam Webster dictionary: Resolution: a formal expression of opinion will, or intent voted by an official body, author’s comments: Official bodies could include church, lodge, sorority, civic group,company etc…On the other hand, assembled group: Assembled group may include Family, friends etc…Condolence: An expression of sympathy.

The resolution or expression of condolence is the place in the service dedicated to fondly recalling warm, happy, and proud times in the life of a loved one. Admittedly, this can be an emotional time for all, especially the speaker. And, what you say will affect the family and be remembered for a long time. For this reason, the resolution should be warm, not to long five minutes or so, and your words carefully chosen.

I was honored to contribute from my memories at my own grandmother’s passing; here is a short excerpt: “She answered to many names; Mother, Big Gran, Gran, or just Grandmother whatever you called her, she loved to cook for her children and grandchildren. Whatever your favorite dish was, if you just let her know you wanted it, she would cook it for you with joy. She had a gentle, warm smile and a generous heart.”

Writing a funeral resolution is not as scare as it may seem, just remember along with your own expressions, to solicit memory contributions from friends and family. As you include the thoughts and memories of others in your speech, you will be able to give rich insight into the life of their loved one.

Tip: Make use of these life events as memory joggers when asking for comments from others. Memories/stories surrounding the loved one’s marriage, family, schooling/graduations, military service, achievements, accomplishments, civic clubs, hobbies, job/career milestones, church, school, awards, trophies, commendations etc…

Tip:

It may seem like a given, but do make good use of your phone, fax and email they are excellent time saving devices for pulling all of this information together quickly.

Something that would be much appreciated and cherished by the family would be a copy of your speech. You may want to present a framed copy of it or insert it in a card of condolence to the person who asks you to do the resolution. And, thank you for caring enough to give your very best!

As you embark on your journey of comforting through words let me invite you to take advantage of my amazing mini-course called, “The Five Biggest Mistakes People Make While Creating a Memorial Funeral Program: http://www.TheirLifeRemembered.com

Janet L. Hudspeth, your desktop publishing guide and Memorial Funeral Program specialist

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How To Write a Funeral Resolution

Saturday, June 6th, 2009

How Do I Write a Funeral Resolution?
By Melanie Walters

You have been asked to write and give a funeral resolution at a funeral, but need some guidance as to what to say.  The first thing is to make sure you understand what a funeral resolution really is.  Some people confuse funeral resolution and eulogy.   While a eulogy is a speech celebrating the life of the deceased, a funeral resolution is an official church document that will be stored in the church archives and must follow a specific format.  If you are not sure which to prepare, you must ask the family of the deceased or the officiating clergy for clarification.

What is a funeral resolution?

A funeral resolution is a specifically formatted rite of passage that you read at a funeral and is officially acknowledged by the church and family.  There are specific aspects that must be included and are outlined below.   Every funeral resolution contains a title, introduction, whereas statements, resolutions and ends with an official statement.  A brief meeting with the family of the deceased and church members who knew the deceased will help you obtain the information you need for the funeral resolution.

Title of a Funeral Resolution

The title of the funeral resolution is usually centered at the top of the page and includes the deceased’s name.  Some samples of titles are:

Resolution of Respect for Name of Deceased Resolution in Loving Memory of Name of Deceased  Introduction to Funeral Resolution

The introduction acknowledges that the deceased had a close relationship to God and acknowledges the passing of the deceased.  Sometimes a short passage from the bible or a funeral poem is included as part of the introduction.  If the deceased had a favorite funeral poem, it would be appropriate to include it here.  Some examples of Introduction to a funeral resolution are:

God, in his infinite wisdom has seen fit to move from out midst our beloved Name of Deceased by means of death on Date of Death. We come together to pay our respects to the memory of one whose life was full of love and now is ended when Name of Deceased was called to join God in heaven. It pleases Almighty God to take our beloved Name of Deceased to His reward.  This introductory line is often followed by a funeral poem or reading.  Visit ObituariesHelp.org for funeral readings, eulogy poems and samples of funeral resolutions.

Whereas Statements for Funeral Resolutions

This section is where you explain reasons or justifications for the funeral resolution. These reasons begin with the word ‘whereas’ and explain the deceased’s relationship to God, his or her work for the church, love by the community, and support to the family. Listing the significant accomplishments of the deceased is appropriate here. Usually there is no limit to the number of ‘whereas’ statements but most churches want you to keep the resolution within 2 pages.  A favorite passage from the bible can also be used as a ‘whereas’ statement. Some examples of whereas statements are as follows:

Whereas, the deceased accepted God at an early age and demonstrated throughout his life a sincere obedience to God. Whereas, the deceased was a faithful community leader and bible school teacher for over 25 years without complaint. Whereas, the passing of the deceased has left us deeply saddened, he will be missed but not forgotten. Whereas, the words of Jesus in John 14, “Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me. IN my Father’s house are many mansions: if it were not so, I would have told you.  I go to prepare a place for you.  And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and receive you unto myself; that were I am, there ye may be also.”  The Funeral Resolutions

The funeral resolutions are the actions to be taken by the congregation to resolve the death.  You do not need as many resolutions as there were ‘whereas’ statements, one or two is fine.  You must include details as to what the resolution is, who will be involved, when, where and how it will be resolved.  Some common examples of ‘be it resolved’ statements are as follows:

Therefore be it resolved, that we embrace the family to show our support and love to the family because in the death of our beloved Name of Deceased, we have a bond that will connect us for the rest of our lives.  We cannot replace Name of Deceased, but we will show you her love for you. Be it further resolved that a period of official mourning be observed for 60 days by the displaying of Name of Deceased’s picture on the back wall.  Official Acknowledgement of the Funeral Resolution

The official proclamation is an important step because funeral resolutions remain in the church archives.  Some funeral resolutions in Europe have been found that are three hundred years old.  This is often another place where a funeral poem or bible scripture is included, as encouragement to the family and as a closure to the passing of the deceased.  End the resolution with the words, ‘humbly submitted’ or ‘respectfully submitted’ and have the main church officers acknowledge the funeral resolution by signing it at the bottom.  The original is stored in the church archives and a copy is given to the family.

Some churches do not require such a specifically formatted funeral resolution, but rather will allow a funeral resolution that closely resembles a eulogy.  However, in the case of the deceased being a long standing member of the church and a volunteer and dear member of the church community, the church may require a format that closely follows the outline given above.  Always check with the main church officers if you are not sure.

Melanie Walters recommends ObituariesHelp.org for Newspaper Obituaries, free genealogy resources, guides to building a family tree, sample letters of sympathy and condolence, written examples of eulogies as well as help with all aspects of funeral planning.

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Writing a Eulogy

Sunday, March 1st, 2009

A funeral resolution is nothing more than a eulogy speech.

When it comes time to writing a eulogy there are some tips that you can follow that will help make it a bit easier.  Eulogies can be very difficult to write and even more difficult to deliver.  It is important that you understand that nobody expects you to be a hero.  These are difficult times for everyone involved.

Here are 3 things to help you write a eulogy:

1.  Reflect:  reflect on the life of the deceased.  Let your mind roam free with all the memories that flow into your thoughts.  Thinks about the good times and the bad.  What memories make you smile?  Which ones make you cry?  It is okay to feel emotional during this step.  Don’t fight it.  This will really allow you to get into tune with your thoughts and feelings.

2.  Take notes:  when you feel that your thoughts are really flowing, then begin jotting down notes.  What comes to mind when you think of this person?  What were their strengths?  How did they make people feel?  Who were they in the community?

3.  Write an outline:  after you relect and take notes, then it is time for you to draft an outline of the eulogy.

There are several online services that can help you write, prepare, and deliver a loving eulogy.

Here are some helpful sites:

EulogySpeeches.net

EulogySpeeches.com

InstantEulogies.com